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  • New York Neurobehavioral Services

Stop Blaming Yourself for Your Mental Health

It can be difficult for a person to share that they struggle with mental illness. It is not unusual to fear rejection when discussing a sensitive medical topic. This can lead to feelings of self-hatred or self-blame as an individual may begin to judge themselves in the way they think others are judging them. Taking the blame can seem like the right thing to do, but it is important to remember that one’s mental health is dependent on many factors - some of which are outside of an individual’s control and are not due to something one caused or could have prevented.

Here are some helpful reminders:

You are human

We are unique individuals due to our strengths, successes, errors and imperfections. It is important to work on what we can change and accept those that we can not change about ourselves.

Forgiveness is key

Mental illness is often viewed as a flaw or weakness, but it is a health condition. Remind yourself that you are doing your best to control and navigate your mental illness. Your mental illness is not your fault, give yourself some grace.

Mental illness is a medical diagnosis

Some aspects of mental illness may be within our control, but remember not all of it is. Mental illness is a medical diagnosis and should be treated as such. Mental illness can be treated with therapy, medications, and/or lifestyle interventions.

You're not alone

Millions of people, all over the world, are diagnosed with mental illness. Mental illness does not discriminate and people of all backgrounds, races, and socioeconomic status can be diagnosed. It can be helpful to remember this whenever you are blaming yourself.

Self-Compassion over self-blame

Self-compassion can help you see your hardships and seek proper treatment and support. People struggling with mental illness often find therapy sessions to be beneficial.

If you are looking for a therapist to discuss any mental illness condition(s), consider Dr. Nicole C. Murray at New York Neurobehavioral Services.


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